• Mediation Services

      Resolving disputes is CDR’s specialty.   We’ve mediated thousands of cases over the last 30 years, utilizing well-trained and experienced mediators and case developers to provide high quality services throughout the mediation process.

      We offer mediation services in a variety of areas within our Community, Family, and Restorative Justice Programs.

      Family Mediation

      Separation/Divorce

      Couples

      Co-parenting

      Parent/Teen

      Elder Care & Probate

      Community Mediation

      Neighbor to Neighbor

      Landlord/Tenant

      Manufactured Communities

      Nonprofit/For-profit

      Government/Public

       

       

      Restorative Justice 

      Restorative Justice in Schools

      Community Restorative Justice

      Circuit Court Diversion

      Municipal Court Diversion

      Post-Release Victim-Offender

       

    • Facilitation Services

      CDR has well-trained and experienced facilitators who can work with groups of all sizes and types.

      Our facilitation services are tailored to the needs of a particular group, and we can be flexible with meeting lengths, times, as well as one-time vs. ongoing facilitation needs.

      If you don’t see what you’re looking for here, please reach out to CDR to talk with our staff who can help match our services with your needs. 

      Family Mediation

      Separation/Divorce

      Couples

      Co-parenting

      Parent/Teen

      Elder Care & Probate

      Community Mediation

      Neighbor to Neighbor

      Landlord/Tenant

      Manufactured Communities

      Nonprofit/For-profit

      Government/Public

       

       

      Restorative Justice 

      Restorative Justice in Schools

      Community Restorative Justice

      Circuit Court Diversion

      Municipal Court Diversion

      Post-Release Victim-Offender

       

    • Restorative Justice Services

      CDR has decades of experience with youth and adult restorative justice.

      Restorative justice guides people who commit harms to take a full and active form of accountability.  At the same time, it takes seriously the needs of victims and their right to have a strong voice in how the harm is repaired.  Schools, courts, and workplaces are increasingly training their teams in these values and tools.

      Schools

      CDR supports the growing movement in education for more holistic, equitable, relationship-based discipline structures.  We assist educators and administrators in cultivating meaningful, growth-oriented accountability in their schools through professional development trainings, sustained coaching of specific school personnel, systems consultation, and facilitation of restorative discipline dialogues.

       

      Criminal Justice

      In partnership with the Office of the Lane County District Attorney, CDR runs a Restorative Justice Diversion Program.  Defendants who plead into this program go through a series of dialogues to collaboratively explore what full accountability means for their situation, where the impacts have been, and what can be done towards making things right.  This program has an excellent track record of diverting individuals away from sentencing and toward meaningful community integration.  

       

      Community

      Residents of Lane County may initiate a case with CDR for a Restorative process to address a specific harm. Our trained, experienced facilitators conduct individual meetings with the person harmed and the person or people who caused the harm.  We uncover impacts and needs, and determine whether to convene a dialogue between the parties.  These cases have some resemblance to mediations, but the goals are authentic rebalancing of relationships, humanizing the “other,” and seeking to address real impacts. 

       

  • Resources and Learning

Micro-communication Skills: A Four Part Series

 Micro-communications are the minute and discrete interactions we have with our friends, family, coworkers, and community members every day.  This four-part workshop series is designed specifically around the skills helpful for healthy Micro-communication.

 

Micro-Vignette: You want to convey some possibly sensitive information to someone… and you wonder how to word it…

Micro-Vignette: You’re significant other says to you, “I’m so frustrated with you I could scream!”

Micro-Vignette: You’re friend says to you, sobbing “I’m just so disheartened about this whole situation…”  

Micro-Vignette: You’re preparing for what you know will be a tense and difficult conversation with a co-worker or neighbor… you don’t know what to do.

 

After taking one, or all, of these workshops, you’ll learn skills and options to deal with the situations like those above.  

You will learn, internalize, and practice a variety of Micro-communication skills to respond to all sorts of challenges in your daily communication.  The workshop content and design will provide you with healthy alternatives via Micro-communications in your relationships and your life, helping you build a solid communication foundation from which to improve your relationships with and compassion for others (as well as yourself!).  

You can take any of these four Micro-communication workshops individually or as a series.

Any of Barbara’s workshops could also be taught to your organization or community/family group on request at a date and time you  prefer.

(Hover/click over any of the images below to find out more about the Micro-communication Skills workshops)  

Micro-communication Skills Part 1: Skills of Expression

Dates TBD

Skills of Expression

Agreement/Preference/Purpose Stating & Posture of Puzzlement
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Micro-communication Skills Part 2: Spirit of Inquiry

Dates TBD

Spirit of Inquiry

A gentle way to elicit more information
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Micro-communication Skills Part 3: Impact Preview

Dates TBD

Impact Preview

Learn how to "get ready" to prepare for a future event.
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Micro-communication Skills Part 4: Deep Compassionate Listening

Sunday, Oct. 25th 1pm - 4pm (Pacific)

Deep Compassionate Listening

Master respectful, grounded, and attentive listening.
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Save the Dates for Barbara’s Upcoming Workshops!

Tools for Harmony within Diversity:  
The Friendly Style Profile

November Dates:

Part 1 – Friday, Nov. 20th –  (10am – 2:15pm Pacific)

Part 2 (part 1 prerequisite) – EITHER Friday, Nov. 20th – (2:30pm – 6:30pm Pacific) 

OR Saturday, Nov 21st – (12pm – 4pm Pacific)

December Dates:

Part 1 & 2 – Saturday, Dec. 5th –  (10am – 6pm Pacific)

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 The Friendly Clinic
(Prerequisite: Tools for Harmony within Diversity) 

Wednesday, Oct. 28 (1 pm – 3 pm Pacific)

Tuesday Nov. 17 (5 pm – 7 pm Pacific)

 

(More dates to come!  For more information email paxdate@gmail.com) 

Justice with Healing

Thursday, Nov. 5th (1pm – 3:30pm Pacific)

Saturday, Dec. 12 (10am – 1pm Pacific)

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Meet Your Trainer

Barbara Daté is “Hapa” (Hawaiian for “half”) half Japanese-American and half English, raised in an intercultural, interfaith residential co-operative community of 79 families on 100 acres 30 miles west of Chicago and within a progressive Anabaptist Historic Peace Church congregation (Church of the Brethren). Witnessing first hand diverse folks living in harmony and working out conflicts provides Barbara the vision that “Peace and harmony is possible!”  That foundational experience helped in her international work with the Irish and other indigenous peoples in North America and the Pacific Islands.  She specializes in understanding diversity and temperament/personality.  

Barbara contributes expertise that has evolved from a curriculum research and praxis team of a dozen graduate students mentored by Drs. Gilmore and Fraleigh, founders of Friendly Press, Eugene, Oregon. Beginning in the late 70’s their team developed a comprehensive curriculum that focuses on teaching adults and children Proactive, Prosocial Behavior (See original “MasterSkills” educational materials and training at Friendlypress.com)  Additionally, we benefit from Barbara’s personal life greatly influenced by her leadership within the Church of the Brethren (“Ministry of Reconciliation”).

Barbara’s holds an Interdisciplinary Master’s Degree in Interpersonal and Small Group Communication & Conflict Resolution, as well as a Ph.D. is in Counseling Psychology, specializing in Prosocial, Proactive Behavior (both from the University of Oregon).  Dr. Daté was the Esau Distinguished Visiting Professor in Conflict Resolution Studies at Menno Simons College/The University of Winnipeg 1995-1997. Barbara worked mostly outside of Eugene, Oregon, only sleeping here.  More recently she had been her parents’ caregiver until her mother’s death two years ago.

 

She works with the Center for Dialogue & Resolution (lanecdr.org) and is a member of the oldest international organization Fellowship of Reconciliation and Under a Northern Sky.

Barbara has taught this curriculum (“The Foreign Language of Caring”) in various formats for over 3 decades (3 credit graduate, undergraduate and high school courses, intensive workshop series and regular workshops) in various contexts.  This will be our first endeavor to teach them online and will be working the kinks out in the earliest online trainings.

Hot off the press! Barbara and her co-author Lorna Monkman (Métis) were just published in Peace Research: The Canadian Journal of Peace & Conflict Studies which is the featured chapter: Justice-With-Healing:  An Adapted Indigenous Model of Justice & Healing of Relationships. Volume 51, Number 2 (2019): 65-104

(NOTE: Barbara will be teaching the Justice-with-Healing 2-3 hour workshop in Eugene towards the end of the Summer/Fall and other locations on request. To contact Barbara directly: Email: paxdate@gmail.com